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Cafe owner defends asking family to leave over toddler tantrum despite online backlash

An Aussie cafe owner is defending his decision to ask a family to leave over a toddler tantrum after a woman posted a video of her angrily protesting his actions.

Co-owner of Adele’s Cafe in Horseshoe Bay on Magnetic Island, Adrian Dalloste, said it was the first time in his eight-and-half years of operating that he asked a family with children to leave his store.

Speaking to news.com.au, Dalloste said he “could count on one hand the number of bad customer incidents”.

“I’m lucky to get even one a year,” he said.

As first reported by the Townsville Bulletin, Dalloste said two children became upset when told they would be sharing a gelato between them, claiming one of the children swiped at decorations from the counter and threw a steel flask on the tile floor.

Dalloste, said it was the first time in his eight-and-half years of operating that he asked a family with children to leave his store. Adeleâs Cafe/Facebook

The tantrum lasted for about 15 minutes before Dalloste intervened.

“I only intervened because the children were vandalizing the shop and disrupting other customers,” he told the Townsville Bulletin.

In the video recorded earlier this month, mother Laura Edwards criticized the decision, deeming it “absolutely disgusting.”

“It wasn’t a meltdown or tantrum; my kids make more noise than these kids do. It was just a grizzly kid needing some help to sort through his emotions at the time,” Edwards told the Townsville Bulletin.

“The parents were sitting down with them; they weren’t running riot.”

In the video recorded earlier this month, mother Laura Edwards criticized the decision, deeming it “absolutely disgusting.” Adeleâs Cafe/Facebook

Edwards entered the shop to address the matter with the cafe, leading to a heated argument audible throughout the entire establishment.

In the midst of the confrontation, she claims she was told, “We’re not a creche.”

As a mother-of-three and a customer, Edwards believed she had the right to intervene, expressing that the business could have handled the situation more effectively.

Dalloste expressed confusion over Edward’s intervention.

He said it wasn’t her concern and pointed out that she arrived after he had informed the parents they needed to leave.

Dalloste said the family refused to leave at first and that he eventually warned that he would need to call the police. Adeleâs Cafe/Facebook

He said the family refused to leave at first and that he eventually warned that he would need to call the police.

“Good on the business owner, I would of [sic] done the exact same thing. He has a duty to make sure everyone has an enjoyable experience. I have kids and when they were little, if they carried on like little brats I would of [sic] packed up and left out of the respect for others,” said one woman on the Townsville Bulletin Facebook page.

“Responsible parents should either have taught said children how to behave and show respect for others or remove them from annoying others,” added another commenter.

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I want to name my baby the same thing as my friend’s stillborn child

Every parent goes about naming their baby differently.

Some pore over baby name books and baby name websites, others search by first letter, or by language.

Others might consider old family names, while some people go into labour having no idea what name they’ll choose.

They believe seeing the baby will spark inspiration for its name.

Our kids’ names were names I’d encountered over the years and tucked away in my mind, just in case we needed them one day.

My eldest is named for an old co-worker of mine from 20 years ago. He and I weren’t particularly close, I just liked his name.

Jolene came across the name for her daughter-to-be in a similar way.

“When we found out she was going to be a girl, we announced that we would name her Adelaide,” the seven-months-pregnant mom wrote in a Reddit post.

The mom chose the name Adelaide for her baby, but it caused a huge problem for her friend. BGStock72 – stock.adobe.com

“I first heard of this name when I was a kid and thought it was beautiful, and decided that if I ever had a daughter, I would name her Adelaide.”

Mom wants to give baby same name as friend’s stillborn

And although she and her husband loved the name, there was a huge problem.

After hearing they were going to name their baby Adelaide, Jolene’s friend, Ruth, started acting distant.

“Two years ago, she tragically lost her baby girl to a stillbirth,” Jolene explained.

“Despite her trauma, she has never been anything less than kind and empathetic towards me, up until the day [I announced my daughter’s name].”

The name is the same as her friend’s stillborn baby. Thanumporn – stock.adobe.com

Ruth seemed to hate the name. She tried to convince the couple to change it, suggesting other names, telling them Adelaide was too old-fashioned and saying it wouldn’t suit the baby.

“We kept on denying to change her name, until eventually my friend started crying and revealed that Adelaide was the name she’d chosen for her stillborn baby.”

Ruth had never told anyone the baby’s name until that moment.

“She claims that, by keeping our name, we are disrespecting the memory of her baby.

“She said that if I chose the same name then my daughter would be a living reminder of what could have been.”

Despite knowing this hurt her friend, the mom said she was entitled to name her baby whatever she wanted. motortion – stock.adobe.com

While Jolene says she understands the pain Ruth is in, “I believe I should have the right to name my own child without being burdened by someone else’s trauma.”

Reddit community divided over baby name

The Reddit community was divided.

Some said to think of the friendship, reminding Jolene that “Adelaide” was just a name.

“Are you willing to lose a friend over this name,” one person asked.

“I would probably pick a different name,” said another.

One person questioned why Jolene would be so stuck on the name after hearing about Ruth’s heartbreak.

“All you gotta do is imagine socialising with your friend and imagine her misery on hearing that name,” one person said. “If the thought upsets you, pick another [name].”

Others thought she could do what she liked. “Your baby, your right to name it whatever you want,” said one person. “Though sad for your friend, you didn’t know beforehand… it is  outrageous entitlement for her to harass you about your child’s name at this late date.”

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I pulled my autistic son’s hair and I feel like an awful parent

When Caleb was a little boy, his mom was abusive.

“My dad wasn’t around much, hardly ever saw him. And my mother, due to my autistic traits, would sometimes call me a ‘f—king idiot good for nothing,” he said in a Reddit post.

“So I wanted to be a good parent to my son.”

But no parent is perfect. Even if they promise themselves they will be, that’s no guarantee they won’t do something they regret.

Caleb’s post read like a confession. His autistic son, who is mostly non-verbal, had done a poo and made a mess in the bathroom.

“It got all over the toilet, shower curtain, rug and bathtub. I think he may have been trying to clean up after he messed himself.”


A parent confessed on Reddit after a stressful incident ended with him pulling his mostly non-verbal autistic son’s (not pictured) hair.
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Caleb faced the mess with admirable calm, reminding his son that poo needed to go in the toilet, and asking him if he understood.

“I tried not to be too hard on him, but this was one of the biggest messes he’s ever done.”

Dad takes to Reddit to confess

“After cleaning up a bit, I had to sit him on the toilet and told him to ‘finish in the potty if you need to make more poo.’”

He didn’t need to, but the 10-year-old wasn’t leaning forward far enough to be wiped, so Caleb grabbed a fistful of hair and pulled.

“It was a light pull.

“He didn’t even seem bothered by it, didn’t cry or rub his head as if it hurt.”

But that didn’t stop Caleb feeling awful. As he washed his son off in the shower, he apologized.

“I said, ‘I’m so sorry I pulled your hair. I should not have done that. I’m sorry, I love you.’ He then repeated, ‘I love you.’”

Even though it seemed like he was forgiven by his son, Caleb couldn’t forgive himself.

He looked to the Reddit community for a sounding board, but added that if anyone thought he was an awful parent, he’d agree.

Reddit supports autistic dad

The community flooded the comments with support, telling Caleb he should forgive himself.

“Also autistic,” said one person. “Shit happens (ha!) and we all make mistakes, especially when we’re stressed and tired. You’re going through parenting on hard mode, and it’s only natural that your patience is going to be tested on a regular basis. This is the FIRST time this has happened. You are not your mother.”

“This made me want to cry,” said another person. “Although I don’t have the same challenges or perspective, you sound like you’re doing your best and that you are a genuinely good person and parent. Please forgive yourself.”

“This made me tear up,” a third person wrote. “I am also a parent of an autistic son and it is so goddamn tough sometimes. You are not an awful parent, an awful parent would feel no guilt or shame. You are just under an tremendous amount of stress and you deserve to forgive yourself.”

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My mom got pregnant by IVF at 51 — trolls say it should be illegal

Kayla’s mom already has six children, but at 51, she desperately wanted another baby.

So the mother went about it the best way she knew how: she flew to New York to have two embryos planted.

She became pregnant with a baby and the rest was history, until the trolls showed up.

Kayla posted her mom’s IVF journey on TikTok, thinking followers might find the story of a 51-year-old’s pregnancy interesting.

“The time my mum told me she was going to do IVF at 51 by herself,” Kayla captioned the video that showed her mom lying in a hospital bed, waiting for the IVF procedure.

Some found it interesting, but plenty saw it as open season for criticism and judgement.

TikTok criticises mum for pregnancy at 51

Some people’s comments were curious.

“Doesn’t she want to be free on an island sipping margaritas LOL?” one person asked.

Kayla responded with another video of her mum holding Kayla’s toddler brother. “Fifty-three and celebrating her one-year-old’s birthday at Chucky Cheese,” the caption read.


A woman posted on TikTok about her 51-year-old mother getting IVF treatment.
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Others didn’t sugar coat.

“Can’t you lose your medical license for doing IVF on anyone over 45,” asked another person.

“My mom had me at 42. Would never do that to my child TBH,” said a third person.

Some were concerned about Kayla’s mom’s life expectancy.

“Being that old, the possibility of the child becoming parentless is scary,” said one.

“I also feel it’s unfair for the child to not have a father,” said another.

Some wanted to get to the bottom of her mom’s reasoning.


Commenters on TikTok asked if doctors could lose their license for giving IVF treatment to somebody over 45.
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“Why all of a sudden at 51? Especially alone? God bless her.”

“She was dating a younger guy,” Kayla explained.

“They broke up but she decided to continue with having another baby.”

But some people defended the mom.

“She wants to be a mom and can actually provide for her child – what’s wrong with that?” one said.

“My mom had me at 43 and she’s my best friend. Ignore the hate,” said another.

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I do body modifications — I refused to pierce a 2-week-old baby

The controversy surrounding piercing baby’s ears was reignited with a recent TikTok clip.

UK-based Adhum Price, who works as a cosmetic body piercer in Birmingham, posted the video earlier this month, recreating an exchange he had with a father, who asked him to pierce his daughter’s ears, according to the Independent.

“An actual conversation I’ve had with a customer just this week,” he wrote over the TikTok clip,

After Price inquired about the baby’s age, the customer replied that their baby is 2 weeks old.

Writing on his TikTok video that he had to focus “heavily on not letting my inside voice pop off, exuding expletives I never realized I knew,” Price told the dad sorry, he doesn’t pierce the ears of children that young.


“You kind of have to have a conversation with your kid and find out whether it’s something they want to go through with,” Price said.
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The father then asked what was the minimum age. Price told him that it was usually around 8 years old, but they like to wait until the child can give consent.

“You kind of have to have a conversation with your kid and find out whether it’s something they want to go through with — whether they’re comfortable with them having them pierced and whether, you know, they’re alright with us using needles for this procedure,” the piercer explained.

Although the dad insisted his baby was “fine” with needles, Price maintained the infant was too young and he’d have to bring her back when she was older.

Many commenters applauded Price for how he handled to situation.

“Drives me crazy that some parents feel they have ownership of their child’s body. Thanks for being a voice of reason!” a user commented.

“Thank you soooooo much for not agreeing to this,” another person wrote.

Although many were appalled by the idea of piercing a baby’s ears — some expressing worry over the health risks — others pointed out it can be cultural.

“For me it’s a cultural thing. And when you’re older you can decide to get more piercings or let the hole close,” one user wrote.

“I see both sides. I know families who do it in their culture (I’m a nanny) but I can totally understand where you’re coming from,” another pointed out.

The American Academy of Pediatrics says there’s little risk to the baby’s health if the piercing is done carefully, and aftercare is vital. The AAP does recommend waiting until a child is old enough to take care of the piercing themselves and to watch out for any complications, like infection.

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I have 11 kids and 8 baby daddies – trolls say I’m embarrassing but I don’t care

It takes a village to raise a child — or, sometimes, just one busy woman.

A mom-of-11, who has children with eight different fathers, hit back at trolls calling out her lifestyle — claiming they wouldn’t be saying that if she were a man and, besides, she loves her life.

Phi, from Memphis, shares her busy family dynamics on TikTok and often responds to criticisms from users about her lifestyle.

In one clip, the 36-year-old says there are double standards surrounding children with different partners.

“Men can have multiple baby mamas and no one bats an eye but I get talked about for having multiple baby daddies,” she says, adding she wouldn’t get the same reaction if she went to a sperm bank.

Of course, “The Masked Singer” host Nick Cannon — the father of 11 with one more on the way — may disagree with her first statement.


She shared some of the comments she’s received.
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Phi used TikTok to hit back at trolls criticizing her lifestyle.
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In another video, Phi responds to a comment that read, “I just know half of them dudes embarrassed af to have you as a baby mumma.”

“Me telling them y’all assumptions and laughing at y’all,” she hit back, adding in a comment: “Speak for yourself cause I love it here!”

Phi has mixed reactions from followers — some admire the busy mom while others were too fixated on her child-to-father ratio.

“This a weird ass flex. Dirty too,” one user commented on a video of Phi proudly saying she doesn’t know anyone with more than eight baby daddies.

“omg are you fr? is that a flex?” questioned another.

“I can’t handle the 1 I have,” joked another user.

Others said they’ve been on the other side.

“On the flip side my 1 baby daddy has 13 baby mamas,” added another.

Last October, the mom spoke about the advantages of having so many men around.

“Let me explain it,” she said in a TikTok rant after she went viral for revealing her growing family makeup. “If you have one and you take away one, you have zero but if you have eight and you take away three, you still have five.”

She also suggested she wasn’t ready to call it quits.

“I wanna have, like, another 19, just so I could make it even, 30,” she said.

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I can’t remember my kids as babies

Many of us can’t remember our childhood.

Trying to recall your own experiences at preschool or as a primary schooler are probably just hazy images, if that.

It’s totally normal and understandable and is a well-recognized phenomenon, known as “childhood amnesia.” 

But one mom has revealed that she actually doesn’t remember her own kid’s childhoods, or rather — them as young children.

“They’re like separate entities”

They’re now much older and after recently looking at old photos of them as toddlers, she was left confused as she had difficulty reconciling the difference in ages. 

Her children seemed like strangers to her. 

In a viral post on Mumsnet yesterday, the mom, user EmpressOFTheSofa, shared a post titled, “I can’t remember my children.”


A mom went viral for a post about not being able to remember her children as babies.
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She later admits that she knows that it sounds dramatic, but that’s honestly what’s happened.

The woman begins by saying, “I’ve just had a FB memory of my youngest doing something cute as a toddler. And watching it feels like watching my own cute baby but they have no relevance to the pre-teen I see now.”

The mum ensures readers that she has a strong relationship with her kids, but for some reason, she can’t see any cohesion when she looks at pictures and videos of them then, versus now.

It’s like they’re different people, or “separate identities,” as she puts it. 

“Is this weird?” she asks, before continuing to explain, “I can see pictures of my younger siblings and join that together with the adults they are now but with my kids, I seem to have a strange disconnect between who they were as infants and who they are as older children.”

The OP then admits that she’s finding it quite “disturbing”.

“It’s like ‘remember that toddler we used to know’ and ‘look at this funny child laughing at his own farts’.  Love them, but they seem like completely different entities.

“Has anyone else experienced this or am I losing it?” she asks at the end of her post.

“I thought I was a monster”

Well, the response has been varied. Some say it could actually be a sign of an underlying mental issue and others say they’ve had similar experiences.

One person said, “I’d say it’s a cognitive issue if you look at photos of your kids but can’t remember them, sorry.”

A different user wrote, “I don’t think it’s that you can’t remember your kids, they’ve just changed a lot. Personality wise and looks.”

Another shared: “It’s not just you OP! It’s like adolescence comes along and steals your little children away and they morph into the same but different people. Also, I think you are so busy ‘doing’ when you are raising young children that it’s hard to stop and just savor the moment.

“I sometimes think there is some mechanism in our minds that makes us forget each stage to be honest.”

A different person added to this idea, musing, “The loss of memory of the details of your child’s early years could be seen as nature’s way of putting you in the present.”

This mama empathized, saying, “Absolutely can relate and I was actually thinking about posting something similar just recently. It’s as if the young children simply don’t exist anymore. I find looking at photos a very bittersweet experience.”

Someone else wrote, “I think this feeling is becoming more common since we started viewing life through our phones and social media. I’m making a conscious effort to be more in the moment now.”

Others put it down to tiredness and sleep deprivation. “I was so f—king knackered all the time when my kids were little that I think my brain just didn’t retain much of it.”

The OP posted a follow-up post after reading the comments: “I am so glad I posted this! I was feeling very low in general and particularly low about my big kids living away. The FB memory of my gorgeous toddler pretty much tipped me over as I couldn’t reconcile him with the farty little 10-year-old monster.

“I thought I was the monster because I couldn’t remember my babies as babies.

“Thank you, Mumsnet. 20 years here and you are still making my life better even though they aren’t babies any more.”

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My mother-in-law called me a ‘walrus’ at my baby shower

Charlotte’s* mother-in-law has always made comments about her weight. But Charlotte has always risen above the criticism, saying, “I love myself the way I am and I live by the motto, ‘Be you, everybody else is taken.”

But since she got pregnant, the criticism and clear messages about weight have become worse.

“When I visit she gives me the small plate, portion, cup even spoons. She also buys me small size clothes even though I’m in my second trimester and those clothes don’t fit,” she explained in a Reddit post.

Although she may have grown to expect fat shaming from her mother-in-law, Charlotte thought she might tone it down at her baby shower.

No such luck.

Mother-in-law fat shames pregnant mom-to-be

Charlotte’s sister-in-law was in charge of the shower and offered cake and juice to the guests. Her husband wouldn’t allow Charlotte’s sister to host because he claims she’s too obsessed with their baby. 

“I got hungry from talking and got up for some cake. The second I put my hand on the cake, my mother-in-law grabbed my arm and said that I’d gained enough weight already and if I kept it up, her son would not be happy living with a ‘large walrus’.”

Charlotte was shocked. The comment was made in front of the entire party, and the mom-to-be didn’t know what to do.

“I put the cake down and grabbed my stuff and started walking. Her daughter stopped me saying I can’t leave mid-party and embarrass her like that. I told her to tell her mom to leave if she wanted me to stay but she said, ‘Are you crazy? She’s my mom. You want me to kick her out in front of everybody?’”

Charlotte left the house, called her mom and went home.

The mom’s sister-in-law was in charge of the shower and offered cake and juice to the guests.
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Charlotte’s husband was livid.

“He asked me to explain what I did at the baby shower and why. I told him what his mom did and he started ranting about how I f**ked this up over something so minor.”

Charlotte didn’t think it was minor. Not only did her mother-in-law call her names, she stopped her from eating.

“He said his mom meant well and that I needed to get rid of this ‘easily offended’ mindset immediately before I pass it down to our son.”

Charlotte’s husband demanded that she apologize to his family. Charlotte thought she deserved the apology.

Reddit community concerned for mom’s wellbeing

The Reddit community fully supported the mom, with many questioning the rationale behind starving a pregnant, hungry mother.

“If she’s hungry, the baby is hungry,” said one person.

“Any man that would allow his mother to verbally abuse and deny his wife food and then gaslight and berate his wife for standing up for herself, is a massively abusive asshole,” said another. “This is divorce territory now.”

Not only did the woman’s mother-in-law call her names like walrus, she also stopped her from eating.
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Some people thought her husband’s reaction was a symptom of a greater problem.

“So your own sister wasn’t allowed to throw you a baby shower, which then caused your mom not to attend,” one person said. “Instead your husband allowed his sister to throw one, where your MIL bullied you. Is he trying to control you, isolate you from your family, or is this a once-off?”

“Be careful…. These people sound extremely toxic and dangerous,” said another. “Don’t let your DH manipulate you into isolation from your family.”

*Names have been changed

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TikToker Nina Dixon posts that she and her daughter, 15, are mistaken for twins

She’s got teen spirit! 

A 33-year-old mom-of-three from the United Kingdom is sometimes mistaken for her 15-year-old daughter’s twin. 

Nina Dixon posted a series of videos to TikTok in which she detailed her experience of looking much younger than her years. 

In one video posted last month, Nina holds her youngest daughter, who is still a baby, along with the caption, “When people ask me if she’s my first child and I say no.“

She’s later joined on screen by her lookalike 15-year-old daughter and 11-year-old son. 

Commenters on Dixon’s videos shared their disbelief of her real age. 

“Girl you and your 15-year-old could be twins,” said Jess Bowden. 

“Oh my gosh, I fully thought you were in your early 20s or less,” wrote AV. 

People sometimes ask Nina Dixon if her baby is her first child.
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“That’s amazing you look like you’re 23 or something do you still get asked for an ID?” wrote Sidney.

Dixon posted a response video to Sidney’s comment, explaining how if she wants to buy alcohol she always has to have her ID handy. 

Surprisingly, she needs her ID to purchase a number of other things as well including lottery tickets and art supplies. 

Nina Dixon looks close in age to her teen daughter.
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Nina Dixon also has an 11-year-old son.
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Dixon explained that she was turned down when she tried to buy pink spray paint, a glue gun, and a hamster without her ID. 

Dixon said when she tried to buy a hamster along with her whole family, the shopkeeper asked her: “Is your parent with [you]?”

“I just laughed it off and said, ‘I am the parent,’” she said, adding that the man at the pet store was “quite rude” to her. 

Apparently, it wasn’t until her partner came into the store that the shopkeeper took her seriously, despite the fact that her partner is four years younger than her. 

Dixon isn’t the only mom stunning people with her youthful looks. Earlier this year, Louise Young, a 45-year-old mom-of-8 from Scotland, posed with her 8 daughters whom many thought look the same age as her. 

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Jennette McCurdy reads email from abusive mom on ‘Red Table Talk’

Jennette McCurdy shared a disturbing email from her abusive late mother, Debbie McCurdy, during her “Red Table Talk” debut.

The actress, 30, read the message aloud to the Facebook Watch show’s co-hosts, Adrienne Banfield Norris, Jada Pinkett Smith and Willow Smith, while discussing her new memoir, “I’m Glad My Mom Died.”

“I am so disappointed in you,” Debbie began the email, which was also included in the book.

“You used to be my perfect little angel, but now you are nothing more than a little … slut, a floozy, all used up,” Jennette read in People’s sneak peek of the upcoming episode, noting that her mom used “all caps” for the insults.

Debbie slammed the “iCarly” alum for being with a “hideous ogre of a man” and “rubbing his disgusting hairy stomach” on a “website called TMZ.”

Adrienne Banfield Norris, Jada Pinkett Smith and Willow Smith reacted to the email with shock.
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After calling Jennette a “conniving, evil … liar,” Debbie went on to write, “You look pudgier, too. It’s clear you’re eating your guilt. Thinking of you with his ding-dong inside of you makes me sick. Sick! I raised you better than this.”

Debbie asked where her “good little girl” had gone, adding, “Where did she go and who is this monster that has replaced her? You’re an ugly monster now. I told your brothers about you, and they all said they disown you just like I do. We want nothing to do with you.”

The email concluded, “P.S. Send money for a new fridge; ours broke.”

McCurdy initially shared the email in her memoir.
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As Smith, 21, said, “Wow,” Jennette laughed at the message’s closing.

“The P.S. gets me,” the “Sam & Cat” alum said.

The mother-daughter pair were estranged by the time Debbie died in 2013. Seven years later, the former Nickelodeon star performed her one-woman show, “I’m Glad My Mom Died,” in Los Angeles and New York.

In interviews promoting her book of the same name, which was published in August, Jennette spoke candidly about the eating disorders she struggled with as her mom weighed her, measured her thighs and counted her calories.

“Grief for me toward my mom used to be really complicated,” the singer said on “Good Morning America” last month, explaining that writing the book played a huge role in her “healing” journey.

“I felt like she didn’t deserve my tears and my sadness since she was abusive, but it simplified in a really relieving way and now feels like I’m able to just miss her,” she said.

Jennette’s “Red Table Talk” episode premieres Wednesday.

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