Father’s Day Can Be Hard. Here’s How to Handle the Holiday.

In the week leading up to the holiday, make sure you’re getting ample sleep and exercise, said grief expert and therapist Claire Bidwell Smith. “When we’re in a good physical state, we can better regulate our emotions,” she said. Research has shown that poor sleep can take a toll on your mind and body and that exercise can improve mental well-being.

Mr. James has noticed that he’s uncharacteristically irritable on holidays that remind him of his daughter. “Set expectations with the people in your life about what these days mean to you and why you may not be yourself,” he advised.

Think carefully about how you want to spend the day, Ms. Soffer said. “Do you want to be invited to something, or would that be too hard?” If your friends will be busy with their own families on Sunday, “ask if you can hang out on Saturday so you still feel like you have a support system.”

There’s no reason you can’t still honor someone who’s passed, said Ms. Bidwell Smith, who still writes her dad a Father’s Day card, even though he died in 2003. Kristin Luna, 39, a writer in Tullahoma, Tenn., lost her father unexpectedly in January. She has started setting a place at the table for him on special occasions, with an Auburn University balloon in honor of his alma mater.

Kacie Reed’s father was recently diagnosed with inoperable Stage 4 cancer and this Father’s Day “will probably be his last one,” said Ms. Reed, 30, a stay-at-home mother in Greenville, S.C. However, because of their differing political opinions, “he’ll barely speak to me anymore,” she said. On a day that lauds idealized father-child relationships, Ms. Reed is unsure how to navigate a troubled one.

She’s not alone. A 2020 Cornell University survey of more than 1,300 people revealed that 27 percent of respondents were estranged from a family member, with the most common fracture (10 percent) between parent and child. “When we expect that a family is forever, or that parents unconditionally love their children and vice versa, it can be hard when that doesn’t manifest in our actual lives,” said Kristina M. Scharp, a professor at the University of Washington who studies difficult family transitions.

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After writer’s murder in the Amazon, can his vision survive?

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LVIV, Ukraine — British journalist Dom Phillips’ quest to unlock the secrets of how to preserve Brazil’s Amazon was cut short this month when he was killed along with a colleague in the heart of the forest he so cherished. Some of his discoveries may yet see the light of day.

Phillips in 2021 secured a yearlong fellowship with the Alicia Patterson Foundation to write a book, building on prior research. By June, he had written several chapters.

“Dom’s book project was on the cutting edge of environmental reporting in Brazil. It was extremely ambitious, but he had the experience to pull it off,” said Andrew Fishman, a close friend and journalist at The Intercept. “We cannot let his assassins also kill his vision.”

Phillips’ disappearance and then confirmed death has brought calls for justice from Brazil and abroad from actors, musicians and athletes, along with appeals for help to support his wife. Phillips would be gobsmacked to learn that his fate has troubled current and former U.K. prime ministers.

He wrote about Brazil for 15 years, in early days covering the oil industry for Platts, later freelancing for the Washington Post and New York Times then regularly contributing to The Guardian. He was versatile, but gravitated toward features about the environment as it became his passion.

Phillips often hiked in Rio de Janeiro’s Tijuca Forest National Park and, atop his paddle board at Copacabana beach, was in his element: floating above the natural world and observing. He might message friends out of the blue, sharing news of spotting a ray with a 3-foot wingspan, reflecting a wonder more common among children than 57-year-old men, and he brought that spirit to his reporting.

He was curious and thorough, whether parsing studies of projected rainfall decline in the agricultural heartland caused by Amazon deforestation or tracking down the driving test administrator who discovered a man disguised as his own mother to take her exam. He recalled an editor telling him: “You spend too much time researching news stories.”

Among local correspondents, he earned respect for his humility as well, often sharing others’ reportage rather than tooting his own horn.

Phillips claimed the spotlight, inadvertently, during a televised press conference in July 2019. Noting rising deforestation and that the environment minister had met with loggers, Phillips asked President Jair Bolsonaro how he intended to demonstrate Brazil’s commitment to protect the Amazon region.

“First, you have to understand that the Amazon is Brazil’s, not yours, OK? That’s the first answer there,” Bolsonaro retorted. “We preserved more than the entire world. No country in the world has the moral standing to talk to Brazil about the Amazon.”

Within weeks, man-made fires ravaged the Amazon, drawing global criticism, and the clip of Bolsonaro’s testy response spread among his supporters as evidence the far-right leader wouldn’t be admonished by foreign interlopers. Phillips then received abuse, but no threats.

That didn’t stop him from attending rallies to seek the views of die-hard Bolsonaro backers. He was alarmed by Bolsonaro’s laissez-faire environmental policy, but mindful that prior leftist governments also had spotty records, often catering to agribusiness and building a massive hydroelectric dam that wrought calamitous local damage while vastly underdelivering. His allegiance was to the environment and those depending on it for survival.

Amazon deforestation has hit a 15-year high, and some climate experts warn the destruction is pushing the biome near a tipping point, after which it will begin irreversible degradation into tropical savannah.

Phillips spoke to farmers who deny climate change even as extreme weather threatens their crops. But he returned from a recent trip with spirits buoyed after meeting some reintroducing biodiversity to their land, said Rebecca Carter, his agent. After his disappearance, a video on social media showed him speaking with an Indigenous group, explaining he had come to learn how they organize and deal with threats.

“I’m grateful to have coexisted with a man who loved human beings,” his wife, Alessandra Sampaio, told the newspaper O Globo. “He didn’t speak of villains. He didn’t want to demonize anyone. His mission was to clarify the complexities of the Amazon.”

Phillips was also a crisp writer with an ear for readability. A 2018 story for The Guardian had one of journalism’s most dramatic introductions:

“Wearing just shorts and flip-flop as he squats in the mud by a fire, Bruno Pereira, an official at Brazil’s government Indigenous agency, cracks open the boiled skull of a monkey with a spoon and eats its brains for breakfast as he discusses policy.”

Phillips described his 17-day voyage with Pereira through the remote Javari Valley Indigenous territory at that time as “physically the most grueling thing I have ever done.” This June, he was with Pereira in the same region — it was to be one of his final reporting trips for his book — when they were killed together.

Three suspects are in custody, and police say one confessed. Pereira had previously busted people fishing illegally within the Indigenous territory and received threats.

Phillips, meanwhile, also had been preoccupied with risks to his professional future, betting on a book with wallet-wilting travel costs and praying it would resonate. He had set aside newspaper work to focus on it.

“I’m a freelancer with nothing but a book in my life and not even enough to live on next year while I write it,” he told the AP in a private exchange in September. “Not so much all the eggs in the same basket as the entire hen house.”

He and Sampaio had moved to the northeastern city of Salvador. He was charged up by the change of scene and teaching English to children from poor communities. They had begun the process to adopt a child.

Sampaio told the AP that she doesn’t know what will become of her husband’s book, but she and his siblings want it published — whether only the four chapters already written or including others completed with outside help. Phillips’ optimistic message — that the Amazon can be preserved, with the right actions — could still reach the world.

“We would very much like to find a way to honor the important and essential work Dom was doing,” Margaret Stead, his publisher at Manilla Press, wrote in an email.

The book’s title was “How to Save the Amazon.” Bolsonaro has bristled at the idea it needs rescue, saying some 80% of Brazil’s portion remains intact and offering to fly foreign dignitaries over its vast abundance. But Phillips knew the view is different from the forest floor; big hardwood trees have been logged to scarcity in many seemingly pristine areas. His companions traveling through the Javari Valley celebrated when coming upon one.

“The Amazon is much less pristine and protected than most people think it is and much more threatened than people realize,” he wrote to the AP in September.

He noted, with a hint of intrigue, that he recently visited a preserved area of virgin forest full of massive trees. Places like that, he said, were usually inaccessible.

And where is that hallowed ground?

“You can read it in the book,” he wrote, “when it comes out.”

Biller is the AP’s Brazil news director.



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Justin Timberlake Shares Rare Photo of His 2 Sons on Father’s Day

“I try to be conscious of making sure we can live a life where we’re not weirdly private but we’re conscious of making sure they can be kids for as long as possible,” Justin told Dax Shepard while visiting his Armchair Expert podcast in January 2021. “And not have the weight of somebody else treating them differently because of something that their parents do.” 

In fact, a source told E! News that same month that the family have largely traded in big city living for an outdoor lifestyle in Montana.

The source added, “They plan to be in L.A. and New York for work commitments when they need to be, but for now, they are taking advantage of being out of the city and getting to have a completely different experience.” 

And it sounds like they’re taking advantage of all the fun activities they can.  

“Justin and Jessica have their hands full with the kids, but they are both super active and love to golf, play tennis, hike and snowboard,” the source continued. “Silas is old enough now that they can bring him along, and he loves it all, too.” 

Scroll on to see even more of Justin and Jessica’s adorable family photos below.

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Rockets considering keeping Boban Marjanovic

Dallas Mavericks center Boban Marjanovic photographed during media day activities at American Airlines Center on Monday, Sept. 30, 2019, in Dallas. (Photo: Smiley N. Pool/The Dallas Morning News)

Fan-favorite Boban Marjanovic landed in Houston after he along with other players was traded by the Mavericks to the Rockets for Christian Wood.

The 33-year-old center has one more year left on his current contract which would earn him $3.5 million next season. According to Jonathan Feigen of Houston Chronicle, the Rockets are weighing keeping the Serbian on their roster.

Last season Marjanovic appeared in 23 games for Dallas averaging 4.3 points and 1.7 rebounds in 5.6 minutes per game.

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Jeff Green stays with the Nuggets

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According to Tim Bontemps of ESPN, the Denver Nuggets veteran power forward Jeff Green exercised his $4.5 million player option to return to the Denver Nuggets next season.

Green, 35, was a stalwart in the team’s starting lineup last season, filling in at power forward in the absence of injured forward Michael Porter Jr.

Green, who will turn 36 in August, started 63 games and played in 75, averaging 10.3 points and 3.1 rebounds per game in nearly 25 minutes.

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Grayson Allen underwent minimal procedure to address left ring finger issues; To be available in the Bucks training camp

Oct 23, 2021; San Antonio, Texas, USA; Milwaukee Bucks guard Grayson Allen (7) warms up before the game against the San Antonio Spurs at the AT&T Center. Mandatory Credit: Daniel Dunn-USA TODAY Sports

Milwaukee Bucks guard Grayson Allen underwent a successful minimal procedure in his left ring finger issues, team general manager Jon Horst revealed on Friday during a pre-draft media availability.

Added by Horst, the said complication has been bothering Allen throughout the 2021-2022 season and the surgery has no lasting effects.

“A lot of times, guys do maintenance-type stuff, routine stuff in the offseason to kind of get ready,” Horst said, via Associated Press. “It was good for him to kind of approach it in the offseason. It’ll be fine. There’s no kind of lasting effects.”

He is still expected to fully recover this offseason and be prepared for the Bucks’ training camp.

Arrived last year in a trade by the Memphis Grizzlies, Allen had a serviceable first season donning the Milwaukee jersey, averaging career-high in points (11.1), boards (3.7), and three-point shooting percentage (40.9%) per 27.3 minutes.

With the guidance of superstar Giannis Antetokonmpo, the Bucks are widely expected as one of the title favorites for the upcoming season. They fell short of their title defense against the Boston Celtics in the second-round matchup of the 2022 postseason.

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Arsenal readying 2nd offer for Ajaz’s Lisandro Martinez


 

A fresh insight into Premier League outfit Arsenal’s ongoing pursuit of Ajax star Lisandro Martinez has been provided on Sunday.

The name of stopper Martinez has of course taken its place front and centre in the headlines on the red half of north London over the course of the week to date.

This comes after the transfer team at Arsenal, altogether out of the blue, were revealed to have tabled an opening offer for the Argentine’s services.

Ajax, for their part, opted to rebuff the proposal, understood to have come in around the €30 million mark.

If the latest word stemming from the media on Sunday is anything to go by, though, then it appears that Mikel Arteta and co. are far from ready to call time on their Martinez pursuit.

As per reliable Argentine journalist Roy Nemer, a follow-up bid is being readied by those in a position of power at Arsenal, keen to test the resolve of their Ajax counterparts.

Such an offer is expected to come in around the €35 million mark, inching ever closer to the alleged demands of the Eredivisie champions.

Arsenal’s keenness to get a deal for Martinez over the line as quickly as possible comes with the 24-year-old also understood to be on the wishlist of a number of rival Premier League clubs.

Tottenham, Chelsea and Newcastle are all too keeping a close eye on the situation, ahead of what could prove one of the transfer sagas of the summer.

 

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Bitcoin heads for dismal weekly close as BTC price rejects at $20K

Bitcoin (BTC) attempted to reclaim $20,000 as support on June 19 as bulls faced a $7,000 weekly red candle.

BTC/USD 1-hour candle chart (Bitstamp). Source: TradingView

$16,000 eyed for possible next move

Data from Cointelegraph Markets Pro and TradingView showed BTC/USD rising from lows of $17,592 on Bitstamp before being firmly rejected at $20,000.

Low-liquidity trading conditions had made for a grim weekend for hodlers as the largest cryptocurrency fell to levels not seen since November 2020.

While recovering some losses, a sense of deja vu pervaded the market on the day. $20,000 had returned as resistance, this having formed an all-time high for Bitcoin for three years from December 2017 to December 2020.

It was also the first time that BTC/USD had retreated under a previous halving cycle’s all-time high.

While some panicked, however, seasoned market participants remained broadly understanding of recent price action, which still corresponded with historical bear market patterns.

“To put things into perspective: A Bitcoin crash of 74% as at present is nothing unusual,” markets commentator Holger Zschaepitz acknowledged.

“In history, there have already been 4 collapses in which the leading cryptocurrency went from peak to trough by >80%.”

In terms of what could like ahead, attention focused on $17,000 as a potential short-term target. A short squeeze higher, as popular Twitter account Credible Crypto noted, was not on the menu.

Fellow trader and analyst Rekt Capital meanwhile added that Bitcoin’s 200-week moving average (MA), a key support line in bear markets, was still functioning as before.

Sellers offload coins at a record loss

At around $7,000, however, the week’s red candle was set to be the one of the largest in Bitcoin’s history in dollar terms.

Related: GBTC premium hits -34% all-time low as crypto funds ‘puke out’ tokens

BTC/USD monthly returns chart. Source: Coinglass

Data from on-chain analytics platform Coinglass added that June 2022 was shaping up to be the worst on record, beating even 2013 in terms of losses.

As a sign of investor pressure resulting from spot price performance, more BTC was sold at a loss in the three days to June 19 than at any other time, according to figures from on-chain analytics firm Glassnode.

Additional concerns focused on the financial buoyancy of Bitcoin miners. Not everyone, however, agreed that network participants were feeling the pinch to the extent that capitulation would result.

The views and opinions expressed here are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of Cointelegraph.com. Every investment and trading move involves risk, you should conduct your own research when making a decision.



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Preserving the Music of Morocco’s Sephardic Jews

TANGIER, Morocco — They sang to put their babies to sleep, or in the kitchen preparing Purim cakes. They sang in courtyards at night when the men were at synagogue for evening prayer, songs of love, loss, religion and war.

Today, most of those women, members of Morocco’s now dwindling Jewish population, are gone. But they have left behind a rich historical trove of northern Judeo-Moroccan Sephardic culture, passed on from one generation to the next through oral history, that scholars of Judaism are striving to preserve before it disappears.

These fragments of history tell powerful stories from times long past, before the Moroccan-Jewish population that once exceeded 250,000 dwindled to the few hundred now remaining, after several waves of emigration.

The women were for centuries confined to Jewish quarters, captivated by a world very distant from theirs, singing ballads that eventually became tonal elements of their culture. They latched on to music to preserve their identities and traditions.

The songs, known as “romances,” are a heritage of the Reconquista, or Reconquest, when Christians in medieval Spain waged a centuries-long battle against Muslim occupation. As the Reconquista was nearing its end in 1492, Jews who refused to convert to Christianity were expelled. Many of them ended up in Morocco, bringing their Spanish heritage with them.

The songs reflect this history, with many taunting the Spanish rulers and priests who drove them out. Even though northern Moroccan Jews spoke a hybrid language of Hebrew, Spanish and Arabic, the songs are in Spanish.

But they are not just political statements. They are ballads and lullabies with metaphorical lyrics that do not just speak of history, but are deeply intertwined with personal memories and cultural traditions.

Oro Anahory-Librowicz, a Moroccan-born expert in Judeo-Spanish music, who donated 400 recordings to Israel’s National Library, says that the songs weren’t originally Sephardic but were learned from Spaniards and retained in the culture even as they disappeared in mainland Spain.

“It’s a way of preserving something,” she said over a Zoom interview from Montreal, where she moved in 1973. “Natural transmission isn’t possible in a community that is dispersed all over the world. It has become a sign of identity. Women recognized themselves in this Hispanic heritage and it allowed them to retain a dimension of their Judeo-Hispanic identity.”

One Friday in February, in the hours before sunset and Shabbat, three friends got together as they have on many occasions at the apartment of a pillar in the community, Sonia Cohen Toledano, which overlooks the bay of Tangier in the northern tip of the country, only a few miles across the sea from Spain.

In animated conversation, they interrupted one another frequently, often finishing the others’ sentences. Sifting through a pile of black and white photographs, yellowed with age, they remembered happy times and talked about the shrinking of their community and their urgent need to make the past part of the present and also of the future.

The three women are among the fewer than 30 Moroccan Jews now living in Tangier.

And during many of their gatherings, they end up singing romances.

That day, music rose in the air as they clapped and held hands, smiling while they sang. The sometimes joyous and other times deeply romantic words in Spanish filled the spacious living room, as the women sat on a couch, sipping Moroccan mint tea, in a moment that felt like traveling back centuries.

“We heard them at weddings all the time,” said Julia Bengio, 83. “My mother sang in front of me but I never thought about telling her, ‘Come here, let me write the lyrics down.’” But she did find cassette recordings of her mother singing and has transcribed the lyrics so they won’t be lost.

“We were never explained what it was, but later in life we looked into it and I want to preserve them,” she added. “Simply not to forget.”

The women sometimes read from handwritten notes, or referred to YouTube videos of the music to jog their memories.

One song mocks a priest who impregnates 120 women. In the song, all the women give birth to girls, except for the cook (from a lower social class), who has a boy. It so happened that she asked the priest explicitly to get her pregnant, and the story connects to some interpretations of the Talmud that says that when women have sexual pleasure, they conceive boys.

Todas paren niñas, la criada varón.
Ciento veinte cunas, todas en derredor,
Menos la cocinera que en el terrazo colgó.

(“They all give birth to girls, And the maid to a boy. One hundred and twenty cradles, all around, except the cook’s child who hung on the terrace.”)

The central message: If their husbands want boys they should give pleasure before taking pleasure.

Mrs. Cohen Toledano, dedicated to keeping connections with the past, is a treasure trove of everything related to northern Morocco’s Spanish Judeo culture.

“Before we had aunts, cousins, family here,” said Mrs. Cohen Toledano, 85, who is the only one of 16 children in her family who stayed in Morocco. “Slowly, everyone left. We are so few that we are close. We see each other all the time. It’s hard, but we get used to it.”

Her home is a mini-museum of Spanish-Judeo culture, a mix and match of embroideries, artwork, photos and a collection of ancient dresses, some over 150 years old — pretty much anything she could get from departing Jews or that she could dig up in flea markets. “Every time someone died, they left me something,” she said.

Vanessa Paloma Elbaz, an American scholar of Judeo-Spanish music at Cambridge University, has spent the last 15 years collecting and archiving the voices of aging Jews in Morocco. To date she has inventoried over 2,000 entries (mostly recordings, and some photos and videos); a pilot of the archive is available online. Dr. Paloma Elbaz has family roots that date back five generations in Morocco.

When she was a child living in Puerto Rico, she learned her first romance while singing in a children’s choir. That stirred her interest in Judeo-Moroccan history, and while she no longer lives in Morocco, she still visits regularly and records as much as she can.

“If we think we have no written text from the women, we are wrong,” she said. “Some archives were sitting in Spain and nobody was paying attention to them.”

“It’s about learning how to read them,” she added. “They sent all kinds of messages. If they were sad about something, they would sing some of these songs to pass a message on to their husbands.”

One day this winter, she met in Casablanca with Moroccan Jews in a kosher deli, and later others backstage of a concert, recording them all. She also sought out the children of Alegría Busbib Bengio, a prominent figure in the city’s Jewish community, who spent the last years of her life handwriting family genealogies and making dresses. She died a few months ago, at the age of 91, leaving her children with the task of preserving everything she so meticulously collected.

“It would mean betraying her to not share her legacy,” her daughter, Valérie Bengio, told Dr. Paloma Elbaz in the apartment where her late mother lived from 1967 until her death. “To leave things untouched is to let them die.”

Mrs. Cohen Toledano’s daughter, Yaëlle Azagury, 51, now lives in Stamford, Conn., but her connection with Morocco remains strong. Music is the bridge that connects her to her childhood in Tangier. In an interview, she said she used to sing lullabies to her children that she remembered from her mother, but she doesn’t think her three American-born children will carry on the legacy.

“It’s a lovely heritage,” she said. “The songs need to be heard. These ballads are often deeply moving and part of the world’s heritage. I feel like I am the last chain of a history that ends with me.”

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Denise Richards Calls Out Charlie Sheen for Judging Sami’s OnlyFans

UPDATE: On June 18, Charlie Sheen said in a statement to Entertainment Tonight that his ex-wife Denise Richards “has illuminated a variety of salient points, that in my. haste, I overlooked and dismissed.” The actor added, “Now more than ever, it’s essential that Sami have a united parental front to rely upon, as she embarks on this new adventure. From this moment forward, she’ll have it abundantly.”

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Denise Richards is calling out Charlie Sheen for hypocrisy. 

The actress, who was married to Charlie from 2002 to 2006, spoke out on social media on June 17, just days after the couple’s daughter Sami Sheen announced she had joined the online platform OnlyFans.

Long story short: Denise feels it’s not her place—nor his—to judge their daughter’s actions.

“Lots of negative comments on my social this past week,” the World Is Not Enough star wrote on Instagram. “I have to say, I wish I had the confidence my 18 yr old daughter has.”

She went on to say that she “can’t be judgmental of her choices” because “I did Wild Things & Playboy,” adding, “quite frankly her father shouldn’t be either.” 

Earlier this week, Charlie shared in a statement to E! News that he does not “condone” Sami’s decision to upload content to OnlyFans. The Two and a Half Men actor noted, “but since I’m unable to prevent it, I urged her to keep it classy, creative and not sacrifice her integrity.”



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