Relationship coach reveals juiciest secret to find Mr. Right

A relationship expert says women should “date at least three men at once” and abstain from sex — so they don’t “become attached” before evaluating who is right for them.

Kayleigh Castle, 35, is a dating and life coach who has spent the last three years sharing her top tips with women — to help them avoid mistaking a “chemical rush for a connection.” 

When it comes to dating, Kayleigh insists people are “too quick” to rush into a relationship or become exclusive.

She claims women should date at least three men at once — adding that dating does not equal sex and women should abstain from intimacy while in the dating phase.

Kayleigh compares dating to buying a house and says “you have to view the property a few times and check the foundations before jumping into bed”.

Kayleigh, from Huddersfield, West Yorkshire, said: “As soon as I say the word ‘dating’ people think I mean sex.”

“People think I am telling women to sleep with whoever they want but dating is evaluating.

“The reason I tell women to date at least three me at once is women fall chemically harder than men do and become attached.

“We mistake this chemical rush for a connection.

“We need time – if you date multiple men at once you are not giving your time to one person.”

Kayleigh says her advice is nothing new and older generations dated multiple people at once to build a connection.

She said: “It is our history as women, go back as far as our grandparents.

“My grandma is in her 90s – back in the day dating was dating, they would get to know multiple men to see which man was a good fit.

“They realized that it took time to get to know somebody.”

Kayleigh suggests if singletons are dating multiple men at once, the ‘weakest’ men will eliminate themselves over time.

She also advocates for no physical contact, adding that men will stay for two reasons – if they have a connection and giving him sex.

Kayleigh said: “You are getting to know these men, take your time to get to know them because the weakest link will always eliminate themselves over time.”

“The only men that stay around is if they truly like you and you have a connection or if you are giving them sex.”

“That is why I say people should not have sex when dating.

“There is this expectation where people think they have access to my body.”

Kayleigh says people are “too quick” to become exclusive which is down to “neediness”.

She claims dating is like buying a house and people don’t rush the process when they are buying the home.

Kayleigh said: “When we buy a house, we go into the house, maybe view it a few times and check everything is working.

“A surveyor goes around, we don’t rush the process – we take our time.

“Do we think other people are viewing the home? Yes, they are, but do we sleep in the bed, no we don’t.

“We are checking the investment of the foundations and checking it is a suitable home.

“I say to women, time is your best friend.”

Kayleigh’s dating timeline – 

0-3 months: getting to know each other 

3-6 months: treat him as a friend – the foundation to a healthy relationship is friendship 

6-9 months: That is when it is like ‘OK, this could be something more’